Do you ever catch yourself saying things and regretting them later? That was me and still is me. Sometimes I open my mouth and I’ll start saying things wether that is speaking about myself, my situation, others around me or life in general in a very negative way. In today’s blog, I want to highlight some things that I have struggled with and still do with the hope that it can bless you and help you.
Comparing My Marriage
In today’s world of social media it’s so easy to see other marriages, other couples and we may fall in the trap of comparing our marriages to others. For a long time, I saw myself comparing my present situation and where my marriage was to other people’s progress and status in life. I saw myself seeing how much they were accomplishing in so little time and I began to compare myself and our marriage and wonder why we weren’t progressing at the same speed. I would see how they were getting great positions, starting new families and how their lives and marriage were beginning to soar, while I was sinking in my own insecurities and doubt. Even started comparing our financial situation to others.
Why can’t God do it for us?
Having all these thoughts can lead us to a dangerous place. It can lead us to start wanting someone else’s life, wanting their success, their status, wanting what their marriage has, etc... When we begin to have these thoughts and these struggles I think we are dishonoring God. God created each and everyone single one of us different and with a unique purpose. Comparing our marriage to others means you are not content with God and what He is doing in your life. I struggled with this and honestly speaking, still do sometimes. It’s not always easy when you’re in a season of preparation and/or transition.
Can I tell you that if you have ever battled with these things t’s all gonna be ok. It’s ok to have moments of doubt, moments of weakness. That will not determine your outcome. The reason why we can never compare ourselves and our marriage to others is because God is writing our own stories. God has separated you from the very beginning. Don’t ever let the enemy trick you in believing that if you haven’t started a family yet, or have started your careers yet, or whatever the case may be that you have become a failure. That’s such a lie! Our society can play a huge role as well because we put so much pressure on ourselves because we are suppose to accomplish x, y and z by “this age”. Yes, it’s good to have goals and be proactive and be aggressive and achieve greatness. We all will, but God’s timing is different than ours. Being in the Will of God is where I want to be. He knows us more than we will ever know ourselves. Sometimes He has to allow us to go through seasons to mature us and mold us. Let’s wait on God and let’s not compare our marriages to others and let’s move when it is time to move. Let’s thank God for what He has done in our lives so far and let’s be in expectancy for what He is going to do because THE BEST IS YET TO COME!
I’d love to hear from you men, if you’ve had any of these thoughts and struggles. We want to build a community of love, judgement-free, where we can build each other up and help each other. That is what we are called to do. Let me know what you guys think!